Understanding Thoughts and Feelings: An Unfair Game: A twice told tale
This book tells two stories based on the same set of circumstances, but each has a different outcome. The first story is based on the belief that people, circumstances, and places have a direct and unavoidable impact on how we feel. Does that sound familiar to you? It’s what most of us believe, and current psychology will tell you that it’s true. This is an innocent misunderstanding that can lead to a great deal of unhappiness in all of us and tension between us and our children.
We often hear statements like, “The school drop-off makes me feel so anxious” or, “You make me feel so cross when you are rude to me”. But what if the school run, or somebody else’s rudeness, isn’t what’s making us feel anxious or cross? What if those feelings actually only come from the fact that we are thinking about our experiences and judging them?
I’ve been giving away copies of Sheena’s first book to clients, ever since I happened upon it – it’s that good! Now I’m delighted we have more, and in this short tale of one football game, seen from two completely different perspectives we learn once again how thought creates our entire felt experience of life – a lesson we can all benefit from hearing time and again, whatever our age.
— Dr Giles P Croft, former NHS surgeon, writer, speaker and 3 Principles practitioner gilespcroft.com
I really enjoyed reading this book. It’s about how you can see the same things so many different ways. I realised that my feelings come from thought and thoughts are just like bubbles, they always change or pop. Knowing that helps me, because I know that my perspective changes and in that way helps me enjoy things more.
— Maisie Andlaw, age 11, read the book on her own.
I thought it was a wonderful book with illustrations that keep children interested and reading becomes less overwhelming.
— Kerstin Andlaw (Mother to Maisie Andlaw)
D’Angelo loved the book, he’s a real football fan so he could really relate to the ups and downs of moods during a game! It was very interesting to him that those moods could just be his thoughts!
— D’Angelo , age 8, was read the book by his mother Clare Assante